Guiding children through feelings of anger; a guide for carers
Anger is something that everyone experiences and it is a feeling that can occur in children as young as three or four months old. When young children are unable to effectively manage their anger, it can lead to aggressive behaviour. As a carer, you can help guide children through their feelings of anger so that they can express their anger through words rather than aggressive actions.
1] Create an environment where all feelings are valid – both pleasant and unpleasant ones, so children know that even their feelings of anger are allowed – it is only the actions that need to be limited. Restore a sense of calm and safety – don’t give them a ‘time out’ but ensure you sit with them and help them through their feelings so that they know they aren’t alone with their feelings, which might be scary for a young child.
2] Encourage children to talk about their feelings of anger. Children will be better able to understand these emotions when adults explain it to them. You can use books and stories about anger to help them understand the feelings. Talk about examples of anger and frustration and also about appropriate responses to those feelings.
3] Ensure that you yourself and modelling appropriate responses to feelings of anger, as children will pick up on the way you respond to anger and will tend to copy that behaviour. Children learn about how to handle disagreements and conflicts from watching you.
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