How to navigate children through feelings of sadness; a guide for carers
Humans experience a wide range of emotions and sometimes we are faced with feelings of sadness. Young children, too, often experience feelings of sadness and as they aren’t born with the ability to understand or verbally express their emotions, they may not know how to express themselves very well. When this happens, we end up with children having tantrums or refusing to talk or communicate at all. As their carer, you can help them through these emotions by following a few key strategies.
1] Label the emotions. Children may not know how to express their emotions if they don’t know what to call them. The simple act of labelling their emotions, by saying something like “It looks like you are feeling sad”, will help them gain a sense of control over the emotion. It also shows your child that you love them no matter what feelings they experience and that he doesn’t have to be happy to have your love and affection.
2] Reassure them that sadness is normal. Children experiencing sadness may think they are the only ones feeling that way and can become anxious about it. The more you explain that everyone feels sad sometimes, and that it is a common feeling, the less isolated and alone they will feel. You can reassure them by sharing your own experiences of sadness and how you coped with it.
3] Help children calm themselves. One way to do this is by helping them slow down their breathing or writing a list of reasons why they can cope and why things are not terrible. We may be tempted as parents and carers to give advice or suggestions to children, however, then they may rely on others giving them this advice and not being able to find solutions on their own. Instead, ask them questions that provoke them into thinking. “What do you think might help?” or “What might make this better?” “Do you think this or this will be better?”
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