Promoting positive behaviour through setting expectations and limits – more strategies for building skills and strengthening positive behaviours
It’s easy to work on building positive behaviours in young children when we have the knowledge available to us to put into use. Here, we discuss another way of promoting positive behaviour in children – through setting expectations and limits.
This involves a similar sense of boundaries that we know children need. In setting limits for children, we communicate our expectations to them in a clear way and we follow through with what we say. It’s important to be clear when setting limits, establishing routines, or asking children to complete something, so that children are aware of what is required of them and understand the request. Ensure that whatever it is you request of children, it is at their level of ability, and that the directions are not too overwhelming.
Following through is also important here – be consistent to show that you mean what you say, and in this way children will know that you can be counted on. If expectations seem inconsistent, children may be more likely to test their limits and boundaries, or even to ignore your expectations.
The Wishing Well foundation
The Wishing Well was established in 2010 to offer children in out-of-home care, such as foster care and residential care, a range of healing and treatment options usually not accessible as a free therapy in mainstream health.
The Wishing Well raises funds to enable children and young people to access developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments shown to be highly effective in dealing with severe trauma and neglect. These therapies respond to the unique needs of each child and young person.
The Wishing Well is a not-for-profit incorporated charity organisation, established and managed by people seeking to improve outcomes for children and young people in out-of-home care and their families. The Wishing Well recognises the importance of the act of giving. We recognise the significance of the participation of community members and all donations are most appreciated.
The Wishing Well operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment.
Support the Wishing Well
The Wishing Well uses its funds to help children in need access all manners of developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments. The Wishing Well takes referrals for any child/young person in out-of-home care in NSW. Applications are assessed by qualified personnel and on a case-by-case basis. The decision to fund an application is affected by the following:
- Funding availability
- The support the child/young person has to access the proposed therapies
- The capacity and willingness of the Carer Household to support the child/young person
- Assessment, which recommends and supports the proposed therapy as relevant to meeting the particular needs of the child/young person
The Wishing Well gratefully receives donations, funding and resources through bequests, corporate partnerships, fundraising events, grants, online donations and other fund raising activities. Money donated to The Wishing Well enables traumatised children access to healing therapies. Please see our website for more information: