How to build resilience in teenagers; a short guide
Resilience involves the ability to adapt to difficult circumstances, and to bounce back during or after hard times. While you may not be able to stop your children and teenagers from experiencing hardship, you can help them build their resilience levels so that they get back to feeling their best selves as soon as possible.
First and foremost to building resilience in your teenager is to ensure you have a strong, loving relationship with them that keeps you both well-connected, and that you show your teenager love and respect. This develops their own self-esteem and self-respect, meaning they will be more likely to care for themselves and for others. These personal values and attitudes are important building blocks for creating lasting resilience, as are empathy, respect for others, kindness, fairness, honesty and cooperation.
A teenager’s social skills are also important for building resilience. When they have good relationships with others, they are more likely to develop meaningful connections and a sense of belonging. Thus, there will be someone to turn to in troubling times.
You can also be a role model for your teenager by showing them your own resilience during tough times. As an example, when you may reach out to others for help and support, you can thank them for their support and talk through with your teenage how ‘Things will get better soon’ and ‘I can cope with this’.
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