Independence; tips for raising independent teenagers


It is important to foster independence in teenagers, and you can begin this at a young age. Independence is essential throughout one’s life. An independent child and teenager will rely on you less, take on more responsibilities, make their own decisions and solve their own problems, form their own identity and their own life values. To give your child a sense of independence, they need the freedom to make their own choices and try new things, with your guidance and support.

Show them your love and support through your actions and words; say ‘I love you’ often! Take an interest in their friends and hobbies. Give them space and privacy if they require it, but also show that you are there if they need you and make time to listen to their needs.

Respect their feelings and opinions. By taking them seriously, you boost their self-esteem. Their ideas and opinions may be different to yours, but you can use this as an opportunity to talk about how people have different perspectives and that it’s okay.

Give them the opportunity to practise being independent. Let them take on hobbies and interests that give them time away from you and allow them to learn new skills, take positive risks, and build resilience.

The Wishing Well foundation

The Wishing Well was established in 2010 to offer children in out-of-home care, such as foster care and residential care, a range of healing and treatment options usually not accessible as a free therapy in mainstream health.

The Wishing Well raises funds to enable children and young people to access developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments shown to be highly effective in dealing with severe trauma and neglect. These therapies respond to the unique needs of each child and young person.

The Wishing Well is a not-for-profit incorporated charity organisation, established and managed by people seeking to improve outcomes for children and young people in out-of-home care and their families. The Wishing Well recognises the importance of the act of giving. We recognise the significance of the participation of community members and all donations are most appreciated.

The Wishing Well operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment.

Support the Wishing Well

The Wishing Well uses its funds to help children in need access all manners of developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments. The Wishing Well takes referrals for any child/young person in out-of-home care in NSW.  Applications are assessed by qualified personnel and on a case-by-case basis.  The decision to fund an application is affected by the following:

  • Funding availability
  • The support the child/young person has to access the proposed therapies
  • The capacity and willingness of the Carer Household to support the child/young person
  • Assessment, which recommends and supports the proposed therapy as relevant to meeting the particular needs of the child/young person

The Wishing Well gratefully receives donations, funding and resources through bequests, corporate partnerships, fundraising events, grants, online donations and other fund raising activities. Money donated to The Wishing Well enables traumatised children access to healing therapies. Please see our website for more information:


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