Temperament; adapting your parenting style based on more or less reactive temperaments
By adapting your parenting style to suit your child’s own temperament, you can better nurture their development and help them develop the positive parts of their temperament. This will in turn help you to understand the situations that your child might find hard because of their temperament, and help them learn how to handle these situations.
Each child’s temperament can be considered in terms of how much or how little they show of the following qualities; reactivity, self-regulation and sociability.
If your child is more reactive, they will likely be quite enthusiastic when good things happen, but on the other hand they may be quite loud and dramatic, throwing tantrums when something bad happens. Children that are more reactive also tend to be more physically active, spending time outdoors. You can help nurture a more reactive child by helping them relax and calm down, through using words to express their feelings, encouraging them to take up sports and outdoor activities, and helping them to wind down afterwards.
If your child is less reactive they might be easy to get along with but not as assertive, and they may also be less physically active. They will likely be quieter around the dinner table, too, and may need prompting to talk about their day. You can help nurture a less reactive child by identifying opportunities where they can be more assertive and helping them learn how to do so, and encouraging physical activity in a form they would be happy with, eg; going for a walk with the dog or dancing along to their favourite songs.
The Wishing Well foundation
The Wishing Well was established in 2010 to offer children in out-of-home care, such as foster care and residential care, a range of healing and treatment options usually not accessible as a free therapy in mainstream health.
The Wishing Well raises funds to enable children and young people to access developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments shown to be highly effective in dealing with severe trauma and neglect. These therapies respond to the unique needs of each child and young person.
The Wishing Well is a not-for-profit incorporated charity organisation, established and managed by people seeking to improve outcomes for children and young people in out-of-home care and their families. The Wishing Well recognises the importance of the act of giving. We recognise the significance of the participation of community members and all donations are most appreciated.
The Wishing Well operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment.
Support the Wishing Well
The Wishing Well uses its funds to help children in need access all manners of developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments. The Wishing Well takes referrals for any child/young person in out-of-home care in NSW. Applications are assessed by qualified personnel and on a case-by-case basis. The decision to fund an application is affected by the following:
- Funding availability
- The support the child/young person has to access the proposed therapies
- The capacity and willingness of the Carer Household to support the child/young person
- Assessment, which recommends and supports the proposed therapy as relevant to meeting the particular needs of the child/young person
The Wishing Well gratefully receives donations, funding and resources through bequests, corporate partnerships, fundraising events, grants, online donations and other fund raising activities. Money donated to The Wishing Well enables traumatised children access to healing therapies. Please see our website for more information: