Temperament; adapting your parenting style based on more or less self-regulated temperaments


By adapting your parenting style to suit your child’s own temperament, you can better nurture their development and help them develop the positive parts of their temperament. This will in turn help you to understand the situations that your child might find hard because of their temperament, and help them learn how to handle these situations.

Each child’s temperament can be considered in terms of how much or how little they show of the following qualities; reactivity, self-regulation and sociability.

If your child is more self-regulated, they will probably be quite good at managing their reactions to emotions like frustration or excitement, they may calm down faster after something exciting or upsetting, and be less impulsive. They may be quite good at working with things until they get them right, coping with setbacks, and getting through homework without much supervision. You can help nurture a child who is more self-regulated by making sure they know it is okay to make mistakes, so that they don’t become too much of  perfectionist.

If your child is less self-regulated or has difficulties in regulating their attention and emotions, they may need lots of extra help and encouragement to keep at tasks and keep focused. They may be very creative and enjoy switching from one activity to another. You can help nurture a child who is less self-regulated by using rewards to help them focus, or by making things fun for them and fostering their creativity by using games and creative activities.

The Wishing Well foundation

The Wishing Well was established in 2010 to offer children in out-of-home care, such as foster care and residential care, a range of healing and treatment options usually not accessible as a free therapy in mainstream health.

The Wishing Well raises funds to enable children and young people to access developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments shown to be highly effective in dealing with severe trauma and neglect. These therapies respond to the unique needs of each child and young person.

The Wishing Well is a not-for-profit incorporated charity organisation, established and managed by people seeking to improve outcomes for children and young people in out-of-home care and their families. The Wishing Well recognises the importance of the act of giving. We recognise the significance of the participation of community members and all donations are most appreciated.

The Wishing Well operates ethically, effectively and empathically with a view to achieving quality outcomes and a satisfying working environment.

Support the Wishing Well

The Wishing Well uses its funds to help children in need access all manners of developmentally-appropriate and trauma-informed treatments. The Wishing Well takes referrals for any child/young person in out-of-home care in NSW.  Applications are assessed by qualified personnel and on a case-by-case basis.  The decision to fund an application is affected by the following:

  • Funding availability
  • The support the child/young person has to access the proposed therapies
  • The capacity and willingness of the Carer Household to support the child/young person
  • Assessment, which recommends and supports the proposed therapy as relevant to meeting the particular needs of the child/young person

The Wishing Well gratefully receives donations, funding and resources through bequests, corporate partnerships, fundraising events, grants, online donations and other fund raising activities. Money donated to The Wishing Well enables traumatised children access to healing therapies. Please see our website for more information:



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